When you get married, everyone tells you it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. What they don’t tell you is why it won’t be easy. Obviously, no one knows why it won’t be easy for you because every relationship is different. However, if you’re like me, you want to have control of your destiny and the unknown makes you really uneasy. Thankfully for Kris and I, our marriage feels easy. Maybe it’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but we make the most of our lives together even when we are 6,500+ miles apart.
When we started dating back in 2013, I asked him if he ever wanted to deploy. He responded “Well, yeah! If I don’t deploy, it’s like practicing for a soccer game and never playing the game.” With that response, there was no way that I could not support him 100 percent. Knowing that this was something that Kris wanted, I knew that if the opportunity presented itself we would embark on the dreaded deployment train.
He received his orders for deployment back in August of last year, and as much as I had prepared myself for the idea that he could deploy, I really didn’t know what to expect. A flood of emotions came rushing in. I didn’t know what to feel. What emotions were okay? I was excited but scared, anxious but proud. All I really knew was that I wanted Kris to feel supported by me 110 percent.
We found that the build up to his departure was by far the hardest. I would compare it to the build up of making new friends on your first day at a new school. You just don’t know what to expect! When the day finally came, I was the most anxious I had been, but as soon as he walked through security and I could no longer see him, it felt like a weight had been lifted. We were past the waiting period and it was now time for the real deal.
We are now more than half way through the deployment, and I have to say it is a lot easier than I expected. Keeping myself busy is key, as well as setting aside time to FaceTime with him twice a day. I most certainly have days that I miss him more than ever and wish he was home, but when the waves of emotion come, I remind myself just how proud I am of him for his dedicated service to our country and for his drive to reach goals within his career. I count myself lucky to be his wife.
(photo credit: Kelly Drake Photography)